Wednesday, March 18, 2009

The Family

So last night Miss and I went on a double date with Em and Ryan. We went to see Marley & Me at the dollar movies. My thought is, it's a really good movie! It seems like these days you don't ever get to see families portrayed as a functioning unit. It gave a real picture of what a real family unit is... hard work. One of my favorite scenes is when the couple is sitting on their couch talking things over after a fight and saying how difficult life was, and that nobody told them it would be this hard. One of them responds and says something like, I bet they did we just ignored that.

I have been thinking a lot about family life. I am happy, I know this semester has been the busiest yet of my life and I rely on Melissa for so many things. I am so appreciative for all she does. Marriage is hard work, but even with disagreements and struggles, I am happy to work towards something with her. The movie was focused on the family dog, but I thought in a bigger picture it was about family and how wonderful it really is. I recently talked with a coworker about marriage and why I thought it was so important. This coworker tried to tell me that marriage is an old idea that really doesn't mean anything other than you share stuff. This person believes that there is no value to a marriage relationship unless there is children involved. I thought about these comments and I really feel this person is so wrong. Marriage really adds so much more to a relationship. There is nothing better than knowing that I can be with my eternal companion forever. Not only having stability, but the ability to grow and learn happens so much more frequently when you understand the eternal nature of the family unit.

So here I am 27 years old and I feel ready to bring a child into this world. Maybe this time next year I will be writing about how hard it is to raise a child and be married and do all the other things in life. And I'm sure I will write, why didn't anyone tell me it would be this hard, and in the back of my mind I will hear, they did you just ignored it. How awesome life really is!

There doesn't have to be big fanfare or something huge to enjoy it. Its the simple things that make it work that make it so amazing. I am glad I have a spouse that I can share in it with. And I hope one day we will have children so I can share these thoughts with too.